Life is a “Sea-saw” and it is very rightly observed that the ever balancing act to maintain equilibrium calls for some introspection .The most debatable topic persisting since ages is “which should get more importance ?” Sometimes the extreme misbalance causes lot of anxiety and stress at both the fronts hence it is pertinent to know the “mantra” of successful professional life backed with a healthy and happy personal front!
Family-work balance is a process, not a static achievement. It’s important to make the ‘big decisions’ – selecting careers and jobs, timing children, allocating roles and responsibilities, etc. that will provide the opportunity for balance. The real task of balance takes place on a weekly and daily basis, even from hour to hour. Commonly cited pro-work factors include potential income, career continuity and advancement, workplace intellectual and social stimulation, enriched childcare social environment for kids, etc. Adverse factors include reduced time spent with family, fatigue, weekends dominated by domestic chores, chronic crisis coping, etc. Hence one should be very focussed as to achieve a perfect “sea-saw” euphorbia. Few tips which will help reduce this stress!Key to Attain Balance between Family and Work:
1. Identify your support system
Find out who can be counted on to help when help is needed? Categorize people and write the names of people who could be counted on if necessary. For example, if daily childcare is needed, who can be relied on to provide it: husband, relative, friend, paid baby-sitter, childcare centre? Who will provide childcare in emergencies, or when the child is ill?
2. Delegate Tasks
Children develop self-esteem, competence, and responsibility by helping with household tasks and family decision making. Knowing that their contribution is expected and appreciated helps all family members feel valuable. Hold weekly family meetings to review the chores assigned to each family member. Praise for accomplishing tasks for the week. Re-evaluate chores based on the activities for the coming week. Use chore time as family time. Working with the children on family tasks can help them stay focused and complete the project enthusiastically.
3. Be Realistic.
One should not set expectations that can’t be achieved. For example one should question our mind “Are housekeeping standards realistic?”
“Does the kitchen floor really need to be mopped four times a week?”
“Is laundry a daily necessity?”
“Who cooks and shops?”
“How can chores be shared?”
Spending time working away from home means that there will be fewer hours available in the day to accomplish the same number of jobs around the house.
To make mornings less stressful:
• Take time on the week-end to plan meals, chores, and activities.
• Before bedtime, help youngsters organize themselves for school the next day by setting out their clothes and school items.
• Set out your work items and clothes for the next day.
• Have a morning routine that children can rely on to start the day. If possible, have both parents share in getting through the morning routine.
• To lessen separation anxiety, especially with younger children, tell them who will take them to day-care(if there is nobody at home to care of them after school) and who will pick them up at the end of the day.
• Take time for breakfast. The children can help set the table for breakfast the evening before.
• You (and your partner) can leave work on time and leave your “work life” at work.
• One can use commute time to shift gears and plan activities for the evening.
• You and your family can spend some time re-connecting by sharing a snack or meal and talking about the day’s experiences before the tasks of the evening are started. Even 10 minutes spent with the family sitting together and talking about their day can help to set the tone for the rest of the evening and developing that special tie.5. Prioritize responsibilities at work
One should make a mental chart of tasks of high importance, medium importance and least importance. This will help cope up with the essentials first as to reduce mental stress of laying off things
6. Don’t bring work at home
Unless in extreme cases like board meetings or crisis at work one should never carry work at home. This acts like de-catalysis in family life. Hence one should try best to achieve official goals at work only.
Hence, balance is easier to achieve when your job helps you reach family goals, and family activities help you be successful in your job. Ideally, what you take home from your job helps your family, and what you take to work from your family relationships helps you in your job. Arriving at a balance between family and work will mean different things to different families. What is important is that you have a balance between these two areas that is comfortable for you and your family. It is a very popular phrase “A happy person is a successful Boss”! Enjoy life!Published in Times Of India Delhi Edition / Alwar Plus / 29th May'2011 by Pallavi Prakash